What is a good leader? My own definition, a good leader is someone who take care of people around him. He is someone who lift others up, someone who believes in his people even if they don’t believe in themselves. Leadership is not for everyone. It’s a lonely place to be. When things go right, he has to give all credit to his people. When things go wrong, he has to take all the blames and pressure. It’s a very bad deal. But, why should we aim to be a good leader? It’s because it’s the true and only path to happiness. You help others to be the best of themselves.
There are 2 hormones that can help you to become a good leader.
- Oxytocin: this hormone increases loyalty, trust, empathy and generosity at your workplace. To increase oxytocin, take the time to help, encourage, mentor, or compliment your people.
- Serotonin: it boosts will power, self esteem, inner satisfaction, confidence and a sense of purpose. To boost serotonin, go out to natural sunlight during your lunch break (haven’t done that for a while) or choose to walk outside when taking a call. Also, expressing your gratitude by saying thank you also boost serotonin. Most importantly, trying to find your “purpose” on how to make a difference to people’s lives and the world is the best way to boost this hormone.
Let I finish this post with the below quote:
It is amazing what you can accomplish if you don’t care who gets the credit. Harry Truman
Another tip for decision making, create a list of pros and cons. This applies to both the people who make a decision and those who wait for a decision to be made.
When I need a decision to be made, I always offer options as well as a list of the pros and the cons to my supervisors. The conversation is normally like the following – we need to make this decision. We have a few options 1, 2, and 3. The pros and the cons of each option area xxxxx. What do you think?
In the above scenario, I was often asked about my opinion. I offer my thoughts. I prefer option 2 because xxx. And, if worse comes to worst, we can do yyy.
Sometimes, you have to be kind to those who have to make a call. He or she might not be close to the situation like you are. You have to be fair by offering all information you have. It works for me most of the time.
Yes, I think about how to be a great leader a lot. This is because this is a skill set that is very difficult to improve. It requires a constant learning. I sometimes feel that I got it right but the feedback from my team says otherwise. What I am saying is I am still learning and I don’t feel like I can stop learning anytime soon.
I came across these 2 quotes about great leaders in the past few weeks. I would then like to share them here so you can join the learning journey with me.
“Great leaders are optimist. This is not the same as being positive. Positive is finding the light in the now; optimists see the light always.” This one is from Simon Sinek. I like it because I am always told that as a leader I have to be positive so the team is motivated. Being an optimist is more important.
I don’t know the source of the second one – “Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.” It’s great because that is what all leaders should be. You have to help your team get better and better, even one day they will leave you for a better opportunity.